But there isn’t.
Because the problem was never the routine.
It was you.
Yes. You.
And before you get defensive, relax...because I genuinely want the best for you.
This post is basically the readable version of my video, so if you’d rather watch me say all this while aggressively pointing at the camera and holding your hand through the chaos, here’s the video version below:
Let’s Actually Talk About You
I know you don’t want to hear this kind of conversation because nobody likes being confronted with themselves, but we’re going there today.
Every little thing you’ve been avoiding about yourself, every habit you’ve been pretending is not affecting your life, every pattern you keep repeating while wondering why nothing is changing, we are uncovering all of it today because I’m genuinely tired of seeing you do the same things over and over again and still act shocked that nothing is working.
And listen, I’m saying this with love.
This is exactly how my older sister would speak to me if she wanted me to fix my attitude and get serious with my life.
I’m not coming to pet you and tell you “aww it’s okay” because I’ve done that already in so many videos and posts, and clearly that approach is not changing anything for some of you.
At some point, we need to sit down and face the harsh truth together.
So let’s start with the most obvious thing.
You Hate Discomfort
That’s the problem.
You hate discomfort.
The moment you open your books and see the number of topics you have to cover, or you look at your notes and realize how much work is waiting for you, this strange feeling immediately enters your body. It’s like this eerie discomfort that suddenly makes you want to do literally anything else apart from studying.
And the frustrating part is that it’s hard to explain to other people.
Because how do you explain that the simple act of opening your book already feels mentally exhausting? How do you explain that sometimes you haven’t even started reading yet but your brain already wants to escape?
I understand you, babes. I genuinely do.
You’re not crazy, and you’re definitely not the first person to experience this. I know it feels like everybody else is naturally disciplined while you’re fighting for your life every time you try to study, but trust me, I’ve been there too. There is honestly no stage of studying that I have not experienced before.
But here’s what I need you to understand.
You have to learn how to sit through discomfort.
That’s literally it.
I know you probably clicked on this expecting some revolutionary advice or magical motivation hack, but the truth is that motivation is not going to suddenly fall from the sky and possess you. You are going to have to sit yourself down and tell yourself, “You are going to study through this discomfort whether you like it or not.”
And no, it’s not going to be easy.
Please don’t let anybody deceive you into thinking discipline suddenly becomes fun overnight because it doesn’t. The beginning is uncomfortable. The beginning feels heavy. The beginning feels like dragging your body through mud.
But once you overcome that initial resistance, everything starts flowing more naturally from there.
That first push is the hardest part.
And honestly, one day you might even become the person sitting online and telling people your own story about how studying used to feel impossible for you too.
Social Media Is Destroying Your Attention Span More Than You Think
Now that we’ve addressed the first elephant in the room, let’s talk about the second one.
I know. I know. I know.
Some of you have just started your content-creator journeys and want to grow online. I completely understand because I literally work on social media too.
I understand wanting to stay updated with trends, wanting to build something for yourself online, and wanting to eventually make money from it.
But let’s be honest with ourselves for a second.
A lot of us are not “working.”
We are doomscrolling.
And I genuinely think social media is affecting people’s attention spans way more than they realize.
I’m about to sound exactly like somebody’s parent right now, but if you put the same amount of energy you spend scrolling through other people’s lives into your academics, your goals, your skills, or literally anything productive, your life would probably look completely different by now.
You spend hours watching other people become successful while your own life is sitting there waiting for your attention.
And the scary thing is that doom scrolling feels harmless because it’s entertaining. It feels like “just one more video” until suddenly hours have disappeared, and now you feel empty, unproductive, and strangely dissatisfied with your own life.
I noticed this in my own life too.
The more time I spent constantly consuming everybody else’s lives online, the worse I started feeling mentally. It kept me stuck in this weird state of comparison where I constantly felt like I wasn’t doing enough, achieving enough, or becoming enough.
And honestly, it just left me feeling empty.
So now whenever I realize that I’m spending too much time on social media, I remind myself of something that immediately resets my brain.
I tell myself, “You are busy watching other people live successful lives when you could be the person people are watching.”
And girl, when I tell you that statement stops me instantly, I mean instantly.
Some of you genuinely need to start talking to yourselves more seriously because not every situation requires soft parenting. Sometimes you need to put yourself on strict mode and remind yourself that your future deserves more attention than random people on the internet.
You Need To Become More Intentional About Your Life
A lot of the habits ruining your life right now are surviving simply because you are not intentional enough.
That’s the truth.
You’re allowing things to slide because you’re moving through life on autopilot. You’re not paying attention to how you spend your time, where your energy goes, what influences your mind, or how your daily habits are shaping your future.
But the moment you start becoming intentional about your life, so many things will start changing naturally.
When you become intentional about how you spend your mornings, intentional about your phone usage, intentional about your studying, intentional about your friendships, and intentional about your habits, your problems genuinely start reducing because now you’re actively taking charge of your own life instead of just reacting to whatever happens around you.
Your Obsession With Perfection Is Draining You
Another thing we seriously need to discuss is your obsession with wanting to be perfect all the time.
It’s exhausting you.
And the worst part is that you probably don’t even realize how much it’s killing your motivation.
You compare yourself to people online who study for six hours straight, and suddenly, your own three hours no longer feel good enough. You see somebody posting aesthetic notes, and now your own studying suddenly feels “less productive” because it doesn’t look as pretty.
But why are you doing that to yourself?
You are not them.
And you will never be them.
That is literally the beauty of being an individual human being.
People ask me all the time how many hours I study per day, and honestly, I hate answering that question because I never want anybody to start treating my lifestyle like the gold standard they need to copy exactly.
We are different people.
What if I naturally take longer to understand things? What if I grasp things faster? What if our brains simply function differently?
You cannot build your life around somebody else’s capacity.
And honestly, I think free will has disappeared these days because everybody is so busy trying to perform perfection instead of simply existing as themselves.
Look at me.
I literally filmed this video sitting on my bed with my legs crossed awkwardly behind me and I genuinely did not care. Maybe that’s embarrassing to some people, but this is my life, this is my channel, and I’m not interested in performing perfection for strangers.
Please stop putting yourself under pressure to become some flawless human being that doesn’t even exist in real life.
Please Be Realistic
I need you to be realistic with yourself.
Like, genuinely realistic.
Just because somebody online completed 65 tasks in one hour does not mean that it should suddenly become your standard for productivity.
You know yourself.
You know your capacity.
You know how much your brain can realistically handle within a certain amount of time.
So stop running with other people’s clocks.
You cannot run with my timing, and I cannot run with yours because we are completely different human beings.
Even your fingers are not the same length.
Every finger has its own purpose and function, and none of them is trying to compete with each other.
That’s exactly how human beings are supposed to exist too.
The Thing That Actually Changed My Life
I used to see myself as average.
I genuinely believed I just wasn’t one of those naturally smart or disciplined people who had life figured out.
But the moment I started embracing who I truly was instead of constantly comparing myself to everybody else, everything started changing for me.
I started seeing myself differently.
I started speaking to myself differently.
I started viewing myself as somebody who was smart, disciplined, capable, and wise.
And eventually, my actions started aligning with that version of myself too.
That mindset shift genuinely changed my grades and changed my life.
Pandemic 2020 was honestly the turning point of my life, and years later, I’m still standing here grateful to God for how much growth came out of that season.
And no, my life did not change because I discovered some magical study routine.
My life changed because I changed.
Some People Need More Than Motivation
And before I end this, I also want to acknowledge something important because I know everybody’s situation is different.
For some people, the struggle goes much deeper than discipline, laziness, or motivation. Some people genuinely need more support than a blog post/YouTube video can provide.
So if you’re somebody who is seriously struggling to function, struggling to focus, struggling to regulate yourself, or feeling mentally overwhelmed all the time, please don’t be ashamed to seek professional help.
There is absolutely no shame in needing extra support.
You are not weird.
You are not broken.
You might simply need more help than the average person does, and that is completely okay.
Final Thoughts
But truth be told, you may hear all of this and still struggle tomorrow....too real!
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Keep your thanks for later, and I will see you over at my next post. Bye my friend :)
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